You are so strong!!! And if nobody has said it to you yet, I’m so proud of you because of your strength!
But what I think makes you so strong is not based on what you may probably be thinking it is…
A lot of the time, we think to be strong means being able to overcome the BS life throws at us, rising up from the darkness, better than ever!
And yeah that’s actually true. That definitely makes you strong!
It takes a strong person to get to a point where they’ve established boundaries, standards, and worth for themselves.
It takes a strong person to have gone through such painful moments, that may have involved a real or perceived loss, to then continue to push forward with a smile.
It takes a strong person to experience rejection but still know their worth.
Thats a huge strength to cultivate!
But there’s another aspect to what makes you so strong that you may have not even considered…
And really is the reason I’m so proud of you…
You are strong: embracing your beauty
I’m proud of you because even though you realize there’s ugly pieces to your story, you recognize that there’s also beautiful parts to it too…and YOU choose to define yourself by the beautiful parts (EVEN if the ugly pieces far outweigh the good ones).
Getting through life and all of it’s challenges is one thing. And it definitely takes a certain level of strength… But being able to shift your perspective in such a way that allows you to experience the lighter side of yourself, is what I find MOST admirable.
Because it’s so easy to get caught up with the ugly parts of our lives… getting ourselves to believe that’s all there is…
“REAL strength is being able to take a mindful approach to our challenges.”
…and that’s where most ppl get stuck…where they become defined by their limitations. The ones who are stuck, focus on the ugly —
”I’m an impatient person…It’s just the way I am…”
“I’m an overly anxious/depressed person…it’s just the way I am…”
”I’m a shy person…it’s just the way I am…”
“I’m an insecure person….introvert, lost, clingy, angry, worthless, failure…etc, etc.”
REAL strength is being able to take a mindful approach to our challenges. It’s having a sense of awareness that there are issues you may be dealing with, but understanding that there are some beautiful things you got going on that’s worth celebrating & attending too.
It’s not easy to be strong. It’s not easy to know that you’ve been through some f*ckd up shit, or done shit you’re not proud of BUT and to still not let those things define you.
And that’s what makes you so strong!
It takes a strong individual to be living through a time in their life right now where the bad may be outweighing the good….yet you’re still finding the beauty and riding the wave of upward transformation my friend.
Continue your journey. Continue embracing the beautiful components of your life. Continue being the best you. Just incase you need some words of power, here are a few affirmations you can take with you —
You are doing amazing! You are powerful. You are resilient. You are passionate. You are creative. You are loving/caring. You are a good friend/human.